My Musings – Page 31 – Not your ordinary tales

Filming the Impossible: The Story Behind Capturing a Death-Defying Dream

Jimmy Chin still remembers the sick feeling in his stomach. Hanging from a fixed line thousands of feet above the Yosemite Valley floor, camera in hand, he wasn’t just a filmmaker that day—he was a witness to something that had never been done before. Below him, moving with the eerie precision of a tightrope walker who long ago made peace with the possibility of falling, Alex Honnold was free soloing El Capitan. No rope. No margin for error. No second chances. “I remember thinking,” Chin recalls, “If he falls, it’s not just the worst day …

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Love Shouldn’t Feel Like a Job You Can’t Quit

A friend recently told me she wasn’t unhappy in her relationship—just “not particularly happy.” She said it the way someone might talk about an old couch: It’s not that bad. It still works. I don’t love it, but I don’t hate it enough to get rid of it either. She wasn’t in love anymore. She was just used to him. Used to the way he left his socks on the floor. Used to the silence that used to feel comfortable but now just felt… empty. Used to making excuses for why she didn’t feel like herself around him anymore. And yet, she stayed. Not …

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9 Lessons That Changed How I Connect With People

At some point, you realize that no one has it all figured out. Relationships—whether they’re romantic, friendships, or even family—don’t come with a manual. We all make mistakes, but it’s in the mess where we find the lessons. Here are nine lessons that shook me, rearranged how I view myself, and changed how I connect with people. 1. You Can’t Change People It took a while to admit it, but people are who they are. The desire to change someone, to shape them into what we think they should be, always ends in frustration. There’s something …

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When Staying Silent Means Losing Yourself

I spent too much time biting my tongue, convincing myself I was easygoing, that I didn’t really need what I needed. That keeping quiet was the price of keeping people close. But silence doesn’t make things easier. It just makes you disappear. Losing yourself in a relationship doesn’t happen in a single, dramatic moment. It’s not a slammed door or a screaming match. It’s quieter than that. It’s agreeing when you don’t. Laughing it off when it stings. Telling yourself it’s fine when it isn’t. It’s a slow erosion—small enough that you don’t …

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Letting Go of Love: Why Holding On Won’t Make Them Stay

Love should never feel like a performance. But when we’re trying to convince someone to love us, that’s exactly what it becomes—a desperate act, a slow erosion of self-worth. I know because I’ve done it. I’ve overstayed in spaces where I had to prove my value, bending into versions of myself that weren’t even me, hoping they’d finally see what I saw. But love isn’t a prize you win with effort. If it has to be chased, begged for, or carefully maintained like a fragile truce, then it isn’t love. It’s fear wrapped in wishful thinking. The …

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The Misfit Who Wins

I have a habit of doing things the hard way. Not because I enjoy struggle, but because I refuse to settle for anything that doesn’t feel right. Some people call it rebellion. I call it common sense. I left home alone as a teenager, bombed my studies, then somehow crawled my way to the top. I studied programming, switched to design, then quit both to do something that didn’t even have a name yet—design recruitment. Every logical step in my life has been followed by an illogical leap. And somehow, that’s the part that works. It wasn’t …

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