My Musings – Page 30 – Not your ordinary tales

Love Shouldn’t Feel Like a Tightrope

A relationship should feel like an exhale, not a battlefield. If being with someone feels like walking a tightrope, constantly second-guessing every step, that’s not love—it’s exhaustion. If you’re always bracing for the next emotional whiplash, that’s not love—that’s survival mode. And survival isn’t sustainable. People romanticize chaos, as if love is only real when it’s hard. But if you can’t even relax in your own relationship, what exactly are you holding onto? If every conversation feels like a test, if every disagreement leaves you …

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The Art of Doing Nothing (And Why It Feels Impossible)

There’s a kind of busyness that looks like progress but isn’t. The sudden urge to reorganize a drawer, push harder in a workout, scroll endlessly, or take on more work. It’s not momentum. It’s escape. Productivity becomes the perfect cover. If the calendar stays full and the to-do list never ends, there’s no room for anything else. No space for thoughts that sting or feelings that sit too heavy. The disguise works—until it doesn’t. Because the moment everything quiets, an unwelcome question slips through: What’s being …

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Staying or Leaving? The Choice That Really Matters

Staying in a difficult relationship is hard. Walking away is hard too. Either way, there’s discomfort. But staying requires a different kind of strength—the kind that forces you to confront yourself, not just the other person. It’s easy to believe the relationship is the problem, that if only the other person changed, everything would be fine. But relationships have a way of exposing the parts of us we’d rather not face—insecurities, fears, the deep-seated worry that maybe we’re not enough. When those feelings surface, blaming the other …

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The Secret Boardroom Inside Your Head

For the longest time, I thought my brain was just... my brain. One cohesive unit. A single decision-making entity that occasionally made questionable choices but ultimately had my best interests at heart. Turns out, that’s a lie. Or at least, a gross oversimplification. Inside my head, there’s an entire boardroom of personalities—each with its own agenda, quirks, and coping mechanisms. Some are loud and controlling, some are terrified and hiding under the table, and others are setting metaphorical fires just to get my attention. This …

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The Lessons We Ignore Until They Break Us

Warnings come from everywhere—friends, books, older relatives, the occasional self-help podcast. They aren’t subtle, either. They arrive wrapped in exhausted sighs and hard-earned wisdom, delivered with the kind of emphasis that suggests we should really pay attention this time. We nod, agree, and then walk straight into the same mess they told us to avoid. We think long hours will prove our dedication. That the right person can fix a bad relationship. That ignoring stress makes it disappear. That we’ll always have more time for the …

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Consistency Isn’t the Problem. Your Identity Is.

A few years ago, I signed up for a running challenge. Show up every morning, run a few kilometers—simple enough. The first week, I was unstoppable. The second week, I started making deals with myself—Maybe skipping one day isn’t a big deal. By the third week, I was watching motivational videos about running instead of actually running. Laziness wasn’t the issue. Motivation wasn’t either. Something deeper kept pulling me back to square one. Turns out, the real problem wasn’t consistency. It was identity. The Silent Sabotage People …

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