12 Years ago, on this day, I met a guy in a tech conference who looked quite clueless. Little did I know that he was actually following me throughout the event and was startled when his crush approached him out of the blue. We became best friends within a year and I had no idea that all this while he really wanted to date me. I was actually “the clueless kid”.
For me, it was definitely not love at the first sight or the 10th (I know ). We didn’t have the fairy tale romance or the Hollywood/Bollywood love affair. Infact, it’s been quite a roller coaster ride. It hasn’t been perfect, easy or pleasant. But he had my respect from day 1 and that along with a great friendship has been the bedrock of our relationship.
Although no one said that it would be easy, I don’t think either of us had any clue how hard it would be, either. And, boy, it’s been hard. But you know what? I’m grateful for that. I’m thankful because it means this is for real. And that we’re going to make it through no matter what.
We are in many ways polar opposites and come from very very different backgrounds. In the initial years of our marriage, we must have divorced each other hundreds of times. He still drives me CRAZY over a million things (putting the wet towel on the bed, not trying any new recipe, always multitasking, workaholic, allergic to dance, etc. etc.)
But no matter how hard I try, I still can’t keep a count of all the positives in him. And the longer we stay together the more I recognize that I snagged myself a good man. We aren’t the PDA people. But every now and then, he reminds me that I am still the one for him in his eyes. And I love my husband with every fiber of my being. So this one’s for you –
Dear Husband,
Sometime over the last twelve years (12 !! Can you believe it?) I’ve become very secure in ‘us’ and in myself. Sometimes I look at you and feel so lucky to have you, but I don’t say anything. Somehow I think you already know this. But I’ve also learned that we often take the people closest to us for granted. And I don’t want to do that.
So, what I really want to say is…Thank you.
Thank you for loving me, when I couldn’t love myself – be it my battles with acne, anxiety, obesity, changing careers, deaths, mortgages, health scares and literally every other high and low (and up and down) that one can go through, you’ve been there with me – as my rock and my anchor. You’ve been my person. As our vows said, you’ve been there for me in good times and bad. In sickness and in health. You haven’t left my side. And I pray you never do.
Thank you for all the smiles you put on my face, for all the hugs that melt my heart, for all the love I see in your eyes! I hope our love will grow stronger over the years and that we will spend our entire life together, enjoying every moment of it.
I want you to know that I need you every single day, and that your quiet presence in this home and in my heart
Is actually everything to me.
With love, admiration, respect, and a lifetime debt of gratitude…
Vasu
Babita says
I have tears in my eyes and those are rolling down and a big smile is on my face while i reading this vasu .So so nicely and honestly u described .And yes we all are fortunate to having him .God bless both of you .And yes as you said I’ll keep praying that the bonding inbtw u guys became more stronger with every passing day .
Chandni says
This is so beautiful and real.. So glad he followed you that day and found the ‘clueless kid’.. I liked how you have a problem with the fact that he doesn’t dance, trust me it is a bigger problem for wives whose husband doesn’t know how to dance but do
Theresa Carneiro says
Connected with this on so many levels! Especially the part where it bothers you when you don’t have a dancing partner! I am a salsa-bachata fanatic, so..you know! Love the way you pen your thoughts. Honest and raw.