{"id":2978,"date":"2025-03-03T17:00:01","date_gmt":"2025-03-03T17:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/?p=2978"},"modified":"2025-03-03T17:00:02","modified_gmt":"2025-03-03T17:00:02","slug":"the-voice-in-my-head-thinks-im-an-idiot-and-other-lies-it-tells-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/the-voice-in-my-head-thinks-im-an-idiot-and-other-lies-it-tells-me\/","title":{"rendered":"The Voice in My Head Thinks I\u2019m an Idiot (And Other Lies It Tells Me)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

It starts with a whisper. A tiny, nagging thought. You\u2019re going to mess this up.<\/em> Before I know it, the whisper turns into a full-scale production. Everyone can see through you. You should probably disappear into the woods and live among creatures that don\u2019t judge.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For years, this voice had all the authority of a Supreme Court ruling. It dictated what was true: If anxiety showed up, that meant I wasn\u2019t ready. If envy flared, that meant I was failing. If guilt sank its claws in, that meant I was a terrible person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The voice never considered alternative explanations. It never paused to ask, Is this actually true?<\/em> It just delivered its verdict, and I followed orders.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Turns out, emotions are unreliable narrators. They weave stories that feel real, but real doesn\u2019t mean true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nervous before a big event? That must mean I don\u2019t belong.
Jealous of someone\u2019s success? Proof I\u2019m falling behind.
Guilty for resting? Clearly, I don\u2019t deserve good things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is what happens when emotions run the show. They don\u2019t fact-check. They don\u2019t weigh the evidence. They grab the mic and go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anxiety isn\u2019t a flashing sign that I should retreat. It\u2019s my brain making sure I\u2019m paying attention. That jittery feeling before something important isn\u2019t a warning\u2014it\u2019s fuel.
Anger isn\u2019t just an impulse to lash out. It\u2019s a signal that a boundary has been crossed, a message to either reinforce it or fix what\u2019s broken.
Envy doesn\u2019t show up to humiliate me. It shows up to reveal something I want but haven\u2019t admitted to myself yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The voice in my head hasn\u2019t changed. It still chatters. It still jumps to conclusions. But it doesn\u2019t get the final say anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, when it starts up, I listen. I thank it for trying to protect me, even if it\u2019s being dramatic. And then, I move forward anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That voice may never shut up completely, but I\u2019ve figured out something important: It doesn\u2019t have to. It just needs to know it\u2019s not in charge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that? That changes everything.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It starts with a whisper. A tiny, nagging thought. You\u2019re going to mess this up. Before I know it, the whisper turns into a full-scale production. Everyone can see through you. You should probably disappear into the woods and live among creatures that don\u2019t judge. For years, this voice had all the authority of a […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","pgc_sgb_lightbox_settings":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[52],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-2978","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-learnings","7":"entry"},"featured_image_src":null,"featured_image_src_square":null,"author_info":{"display_name":"vasudha","author_link":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/author\/vasudha\/"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2978"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2978"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2978\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2979,"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2978\/revisions\/2979"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2978"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2978"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ideaweb.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2978"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}